For a long time, I waited for permission —, permission to take up space. I found myself hesitating, shrinking, and second-guessing who I was allowed to become. And without even realizing it, I had outsourced belief in my own life to the opinions, reactions, and approval of other people. So today we are going to discuss how to become your number one fan!
Because, this is what I’ve learned the hard way: if you are not your number one fan, the world will always have too much power over you.
Becoming your own biggest supporter isn’t arrogance. It’s obedience to the life God is calling you to steward.
1. Stop Booing Yourself From the Crowd
You cannot cheer for a version of yourself you keep criticizing.
So many of us are loud supporters of everyone else, yet we sit in the front row of our own lives throwing tomatoes at our efforts.
We say things like:
- “It’s not that deep.”
- “Other people are doing it better.”
- “I’ll celebrate when it’s bigger.”
But growth doesn’t respond to shame.
Confidence doesn’t grow in contempt.
Being your number one fan starts with changing the commentary. Speak to yourself the way you would speak about someone you deeply admire — with patience, grace, and expectation.
2. Celebrate Progress, Not Just Results
I used to think celebration was reserved for milestones: the launch, the breakthrough, the big win.
Now I celebrate:
- Showing up when I didn’t feel ready
- Choosing discipline over comfort
- Saying no when I would’ve overextended myself
- Resting without guilt
Your growth deserves applause before it becomes impressive to other people.
When you learn to celebrate progress, you stop quitting too early.
3. Defend Your Own Name (Even in Private)
Being your number one fan means you don’t join conversations — especially internal ones — that dishonor you.
That means:
- You correct negative self-talk
- You stop replaying old failures as proof you’re unqualified
- You don’t let past versions of you bully the present one
You are allowed to evolve without constantly apologizing for who you used to be.
4. Believe God More Than Your Insecurities
Faith plays a huge role here.
Because becoming your biggest supporter doesn’t mean pretending you’re perfect — it means trusting God’s perspective over your fears.
If God saw fit to entrust you with your calling, your voice, your assignment, then who are you to constantly doubt His judgment?
Supporting yourself is an act of faith.
It says, “I trust what God placed inside me, even while I’m still becoming.”
5. Show Up Like Someone Is Watching (Because You Are)
Every time you keep a promise to yourself, you build trust. And every time you show up with integrity, you strengthen your inner voice. You are always watching how you treat yourself.
- Be your loudest cheerleader in empty rooms.
- Be your own reminder when motivation fades.
- Be the one who says, “I’m proud of you for trying.”
- Be the version of you that future you will thank.
Final Thought
The world doesn’t need you waiting to be chosen.
It needs you chosen — by you.
When you become your number one fan, you stop chasing approval and start attracting alignment.
And that changes everything.
✨ Call to Action
If this resonated with you, take one bold step today:
Do one thing that supports the life you say you want — and celebrate yourself for it.
Then share this post with a woman who needs permission to believe in herself again.
You’re not late, you’re not behind. You are just learning how to cheer.
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